Am I Oblivious?
I have come to realize over the past few days that people are, for the most part, completely oblivious. I had believed that people thought and considered things as much as I did. That while they may speak before thinking, they did at some point think. I believed that they took the time at some point during their lives to understand people and at least believed themselves that they understood where people were coming from and what others thought. I assumed that people at least had their own opinions and beliefs about what other people in their lives thought about things in general (people, events, etc). Maybe they realized that they didn’t know if they hadn’t asked, but they had an opinion at least. The point being that I believed the thoughts of people crossed other people’s minds from time to time.
But that is ludicrous, isn’t it? People don’t have a clue what each other are thinking, do they? I used to think people were just being polite in what they chose not to say, chose not to ask. But they aren’t, are they? They have just never thought about what is going on in the heads of their friends and coworkers. I cannot even comprehend not trying to understand how people think. How do they not get offended all the time or not stick their foot in their mouth all the time if they don’t know how people will take their comments? How many opportunities are being missed because people don’t even realize they want the same things someone else does? Do people think their lives are so full and important that they cannot take the time to try and understand the mind of the people they know? Like I said, I cannot even comprehend it.
Which actually leads me to my thoughts of the day. If so many people are oblivious to what is going on around them, to what people think and feel and experience around them, am I in the dark as well? Do I have my blinders on? Perhaps in my quest to understand myself and the people around me, I have overlooked the obvious. I do not know, but I have found it always dangerous to state something concerning others without looking in the mirror. So that is what I’m doing at the moment, seeing what it is that I am missing. What is it that is obvious if I would only look. What is it that I should have asked, but never thought to. What is it that I should have considered, but could not see?
If you have any thoughts, let me know. If you know something I have missed or just ignored or should have seen, give me a call or catch me on IM. No one grows in the dark. We have to place ourselves in the light if we are ever to be more.
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