Comments on: Am I Oblivious?

By: Kris Martinez

Kris Martinez — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 18:39:33 +0000

You know, I really do think we are the exception to the rule. I may have a knee-jerk reaction (actually thought, as I don’t react) about a situation, but I always stop and try to give people the benefit of the doubt for their actions or the way that they are expressing themselves–I don’t know their life experiences, what they’ve been through, what they know, or even if they’re just having a bad day, but I’ve found that very few people react as I do. As sad as it is, there are compassionate, emotionally and intellectually mature individuals, but people as a collective group suck.

By: Christopher

Christopher — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 18:20:01 +0000

Thanks Kris, that’s precisely where I was going.

Like you, I tend to keep my mouth shut. I had assumed that others were doing the same, just being polite and not bringing up certain topics. And like you, I have been disappointed in people, though perhaps for a different reason.

I haven’t thought that others think like I do, but I have assumed that they knew what they thought, even if it ran counter to my views. But lately I am finding that people do not know what they think, much less anyone else. They do not look beyond their own limited views to see things through someone else’s eyes. They do not attempt to feel what others feel and understand the priorities of others.

I am really hoping that I am just having a bad experience with people lately in this regard, but I am getting the idea more and more that we are the unusual ones and the rest of the world is just too self-centered to give a damn.

By: Kris Martinez

Kris Martinez — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 02:21:37 +0000

First, my caveat–I’ve had a lot of wine.
I, too wonder what goes on in the heads of others.
As far as I’m concerned, I find myself looking at each individual and trying to decide what is going on with them. See them in a situation and try to figure out what it is they are going to do, what they think, what their priorities are concerning certain situations, and truthfully–People disappoint me. I will admit I am naive. I have been hurt, burned, and disappointed more times than I can count because I unrealistically think that people share the sames ideals and compassion for others that I do.
I do, however, keep my mouth shut more often than not.
I don’ t know if this comment fit along with what you were going with, but I promise to reread in the morning when things will be more coherent.
I like you Chris. I like reading what you write, even though I may not always comment.
Thanks for being my friend….